I’ve recently been exploring my bi side and experimenting with other men. I’ve come to the point of being perfectly comfortable with my sexuality: I’m attracted to both women and men, but I’m predominantly attracted to women. I hate the idea of having to hide this. I’ve read Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt’s book The Ethical Slut, and have come to the firm conclusion that I don’t want to lie about my sexuality.
I’ve gotten shitloads of mail from bisexuals over the years. But I’ve never received a letter from a bisexual who counted other bisexuals among his or her potential sex partners. From the bi guys it’s always, “Boo hoo, I’m bi. Gay men won’t date me, and straight women are scared of me.” From the bi girls it’s always, “Boo hoo, I’m bi. Lesbians won’t date me, and straight men just want to watch me make out with their bi-curious girlfriends!” It never seems to occur to bis that they can avoid all this by dating other bis exclusively. And what kind of statement does it make about the general desirability of bisexuals that so many of them can’t even conceive of dating others like them?
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That some men who ultimately identify as gay claim to be bisexual for a time is a well-established fact, so it’s entirely possible that the 75 percent of the bisexuals whose dicks were wired up in Rieger’s study are on their way to embracing their big gay selves. But what, I wonder, is the deal with the 25 percent of bisexual guys in the study who responded to the girl-on-girl porn but not the boy-on-boy porn?
Where’s it come from? That’s an easy one–so easy that you already nailed it. You’re an exhibitionist, MOAN. You get off on being seen, being desired, and, in the case of gay men, inspiring desires you have no intention of indulging–which makes you a bit of a prick tease, too. What to do about it? Enjoy it, of course.
