My boyfriend let me experiment on him with a strap-on. At first he didn’t like it, but now he loves it. Now I want to have sex with another guy and watch him suck a real cock. How can I get him to try this? –Pretty Eager Gal
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I can’t bring myself to answer any more letters this week. Why bother when all my hard work can be undone in an instant by a thoughtless person who can only think about what she wants? So I’m turning this week’s column over to a pack of female-to-male transsexuals. They’ve got some good advice for The Impossible Fantasy, the gay man who’s attracted to “guys with pies,” or hypermasculine FTMs, but wasn’t having any luck finding an FTMGWP willing to sleep with him. Take it away, gentlemen.
As a gay-identified FTM, my first reaction to TIF’s letter was “Wow, too bad that guy comes across like such a creep.” Given that reaction, I’m not terribly surprised he’s having trouble fulfilling his fantasy. As a public service, I’ll try to unpack (ahem) why that was my reaction.
I’m a gay bio-male with a comment for the gay man interested in “guys with pies.” Based on what I know of my FTM friends, here’s a suggestion: When you meet a gay/bi FTM, don’t call his genitals by female names. Call it his cock, and treat it like a nice hot one. By accepting his body for what he might prefer it to be, you have a better chance of making him want to be with you. –Charles
TIF mentioned that most of the FTMs he’s met have been straight identified. For many FTMs, especially recently transitioned ones, there is often an obsession with “passing” in society as male. A lot of FTMs wear very stereotypical male clothing and act in very stereotypically male ways in order to pass. And what does a stereotypical male find attractive? Women. Tits and ass.
And while I’m here, Dan: When you periodically respond to those pre-op FTMs moaning that they can’t get a date, your answer annoys me a bit. You state that most gay guys don’t want anything to do with trannies, end of story. My experience has been that a lot of gay guys will give it a whirl if they’ve never been with a tranny before. Relationships are tricky, absolutely, but if you have a reasonable amount of confidence, getting laid isn’t. –Paris
