I’m a 26-year-old lesbian in a relationship with a 21-year-old. We’ve been together for five years. She’s a brilliant student with a bright future. I love her, but I feel that we need to part.

OK, GFBG, if she’s really that brilliant an undergrad, then your girlfriend can figure out how to take care of herself. A little fiscal misery, like a little barely legal lesbian action, is a cherished part of the college experience–and putting your own ass through college can be every bit as educational as those other opportunities she’s earned through her hard work.

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What is with the incest letters lately? Was the incest taboo rescinded, and only SISTAH and I failed to get the memo?

Realizing I couldn’t live without sex any longer, I told my husband (nicely–it’s hard to say things like this to someone you love) that I didn’t think he cared what I did, and he didn’t disagree. (I didn’t tell him about the fling.) Now I’ve met a gentleman who is sweet and kind and attentive. He is married and in the same situation I am. Discretion is absolute, and we play safe. When we make love I can’t believe I waited so long.