I’m a 19-year-old girl, attractive, outgoing, and ambitious. My boyfriend is 21 and shares the same qualities. We’ve been dating since January. At times he gets really moody and won’t tell me why, but I’ve noticed a pattern to what prompts it: (1) me hanging out with my guy friends (guy friends I’ve known since we were about 13, no attraction); (2) me hanging out with a guy I once had a one-night stand with, whom we both know; (3) me talking to a guy at a club.
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My boyfriend glared at me and walked away. I found him outside and asked him what was going on, and he ignored me. I ended up walking down the street in the rain, the most emo I could possibly be, crying. When I saw him later my boyfriend said that telling the other guy “I’m here with my boyfriend” meant that if I wasn’t there with my boyfriend I would have done something with him. I ended up bawling, and then he held me and told me it was OK.
Fire. Rumsfeld. Now. No, wait. I’ve been spending too much time reading Andrew Sullivan’s blog. I meant: Break. Up. With. Him. Now. This is classic controlling behavior, GREEN, and if you let him get away with it–by which I mean if you don’t dump his ass over this bullshit–it’s only going to get worse.
No more emo, GREEN, no more tears. Dump. Him. Now. And fire Rumsfeld too.
I’d be interested to hear your thoughts. –Don’t Fuck Animals
the woman I advised to consider cleaning up after her messy boyfriend if things got serious. You can read a smattering of the letters, pro and con, at www.thestranger.com/savage/housework.
