I am a 25-year-old SWM who lives in a large apartment complex. Over the past several months the woman who lives upstairs from me has fallen into the habit of coming downstairs once or twice a week and giving me a blow job. She seems fairly normal, and is about ten years older than me. She doesn’t want to go out on dates, and she doesn’t expect me to reciprocate. We don’t even really talk that much.
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Look, even if you’re only having a just-head-thanks relationship with your neighbor, it’s still a relationship. If you’re wondering what’s up with your neighbor, if you’re worried and want to know what she’s getting out of this, then have the balls and the decency to ask her what’s up. There’s nothing about NSA arrangements that prevents a person from being considerate. I’m not suggesting that you draw her into a long, involved conversation about her feelings or your relationship. It doesn’t sound like she’s particularly interested in that kind of a conversation. But you can check in with her. Try saying something like, “Gee whiz, I want you to know how grateful I am for all the amazing head. I also want to make sure that you’re OK and that I’m not exploiting you. It would help put me at ease if you told me what you’re getting out of this.”
What will she say in response? Maybe she’ll tell you that sexually servicing a younger man has always been her ultimate fantasy or that there’s just something about your come that makes her happy. If you hear anything along those lines, SBN, then everything’s cool and you can go back to being serviced with a clear conscience. But if she’s sucking you off twice a week because it’s the only thing that seems to quiet the voices in her head–voices that may be telling her to bite some dude’s dick off–wouldn’t you like to know?
