How can I tell if I’m asexual? Is it a legitimate orientation or am I just a seething ball of neuroses?
After the results of a study on asexuality were published in the Journal of Sex Research in August 2004, a new sexual minority group began taking its turn on the wicked stage. Everyone from the BBC to Salon to the New Scientist weighed in on the 1 percent of the population that, according to UK researchers, “had never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all.” The go-to guy for quotes and insights into asexuality was David Jay, a 23-year-old asexual from Saint Louis and the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (www.asexuality.org).
Best of Chicago voting is live now. Vote for your favorites »
And your husband’s needs?
Stop worrying about protecting your brother and start worrying about protecting yourself. He’s sexually assaulting you, SWNS, and he’s using your fear of embarrassment to keep you silent! You’re being manipulated and abused–get angry! Tell your parents what’s going on, buy a lock for your door, and if your brother somehow manages to get into your room despite the lock, scream your fucking head off.
Shameless plug: Dan Savage’s new book, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family, goes on sale September 22.
