Your advice to Femme Teasing Mask, the woman who wrote in about her cross-dressing, female-latex-mask-wearing boyfriend, was bullshit. You told her to break up with him, “[but] don’t tell him the real reason why you’re leaving….Let him think that it’s not the cross-dressing and the latex masks but his breath or his fashion sense….Leave him, FTM–just leave him with his newfound sense of pleasure in his fetish, OK?” Why the hell should she do that? This guy needs to know that some people aren’t into his elaborate fantasy life and that if he pushes it to the exclusion of other kinds of sex then there may be consequences. Let’s try to keep honesty on the same level of importance as sexual fetish. –Disgruntled Reader
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However, ladies and gentlemen, while I agree with DR on this point, in no way should this rare reversal be interpreted as a blanket endorsement of honesty. A nice idea in theory, honesty is not always a workable one in practice. There are times when a lie is the loving option and the right thing to do. But this isn’t one of those times. As he looks for a new relationship, FTM’s ex-boyfriend needs to know he can be a cross-dressing, latex-mask-wearing perv–but not a selfish one.
Your advice to FTM was incredibly hypocritical. In virtually every instance you counsel people to indulge in their partners’ kinks as a way to solidify their relationships. But in a case where you actually find a sexually open woman, you tell her that she fucked up her own relationship and that now she has to “take some responsibility for the mess [she’s] made.”
I look at spanking pages on the Internet, and it is becoming a bit of an obsession. My husband knows, but I don’t think he has any idea how much I like being spanked. I asked him to spank me, and he has a couple of times. I’m afraid that if I tell him how much I like it he’ll think I’m weird or freaky, but I am also afraid of not getting the spankings I crave. How do I tell him? I tried asking him what his fantasies are but he says he hasn’t got any. Is this possible? –Please Answer This
–Damn Experience Backfired
