I was dating an amazing guy–smart, funny, caring, and interesting. I just wasn’t that attracted to him. I enjoyed hooking up with him, but it was never one of those “Oh man, I just have to have you” things.
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And why do you want Boy #1 back? It can’t be because he’s smart, funny, caring, and interesting. Boy #1 was all those things when you dumped him for Boy #2. And unless Boy #1 got a face-and-body transplant in the days after you dumped him, the attraction problem is still going to be an issue and you probably won’t be able to resist the next good-looking guy that comes along. So why do you want Boy #1 back?
Here’s a guess. You can’t stand the thought of being alone while you wait for Boy #3 to come along–a hot guy who wants to date you as much as he wants to fuck you. So you want Boy #1 to be your chump, to hang around and keep you entertained until it’s time to dump him again.
No ideas, MAK. No advice, no guidance, no pointers. I got nothin’ for you because if we gay guys aren’t allowed to be married–to each other–then you married straight guys aren’t allowed to be gay, not even with the wife’s permission. Married Canadian straight guys can be as gay as they like, of course. Have at it, fellas.
