I’m a gay man who recently came out to my friends, mostly because I met someone with whom I wanted to pursue a relationship. I had never experienced this feeling before. After much courting and pursuing, we met enough times that he remembered my name–then came love. Eight months later, despite a few indiscretions on both our parts, I’m happy as can be. But I don’t think we’re in the same place emotionally. I need him–well, actually, I neeeeed him–and he says he needs his space. I don’t want to date anyone else, and I fear that if we were to split up I would revert to the sexual deviant that I was and he would do the same.
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He’s in therapy and it seems to be helping, but the more therapy he goes to, the less time he seems to want to spend with me. I love him and can’t bear to think of us parting. I want to have sex with him, but I also want to respect his boundaries. How do I get him to want to spend more time with me? Am I right for giving him space? Or should I be more forceful in my pursuits? –Not a German Shepherd
Let’s quickly review: the man you’ve fallen in love with likes to fuck dogs, doesn’t much like being fucked by you (except in the doggy position), “needs his space” (in order to fuck dogs, no doubt), and lies to you about his masturbatory routine, age, and God knows what else. The one thing he hasn’t lied to you about is the dog fucking–that little detail he’s only too willing to share.
I’m a married male in my 40s who has recently discovered the pleasure of drinking my wife’s pee. It’s now a staple of our sex life; nothing gets me hornier than several mouthfuls of my wife’s piss. Here’s my question: my wife has recently decided to take tamoxifen to reduce her risk of breast cancer. Is it still safe for me to drink her urine? Can one of your expert consultants give us an answer? –Peeing Is So Sexy
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