My boyfriend and I are currently doing the long-distance thing, as I’m finishing up some schooling. About two months ago during some dirty phone talk he said he’d been masturbating while thinking about me fucking another man while he watches.
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Yeah, UATCT, I’m familiar with drastic, disgusted, after-the-fact denial. When I first came out–back before I knew better–I fucked a handful of “straight” guys. And let me tell you, UATCT, the shit that comes out of the mouths of closet cases just before and all during sex will turn your hair white and/or make your dick hard. No one begs to be fucked quite as sincerely, graphically, or desperately as some frat boy who hasn’t reconciled himself to being gay quite yet.
But oh, the moment a closet case gets what he came for–the moment he comes–his tone changes dramatically. Not only does he stop begging to be fucked, he will deny he ever wanted to be fucked in the first place. The truly messed-up ones would even deny that they had been fucked at all, never mind the evidence all over their abs. And any attempts to address their absurd denials–“What do you mean you’ve never been fucked? My cock is still in your ass!”–were a waste of time.
I’m among the “growing legions” of cuckold fetishists. My wife is a Hot Little Slut, and she’s happy to accommodate my fantasy. Recently, while at an out-of-town seminar, my HLS hooked up with a guy and gave him a blow job. She did a repeat when he was in our area on business. The guy, also married, assumes that my HLS is having sex without my knowledge. We don’t believe we have an ethical obligation to notify “one-nighters” that HLS will be sharing the dirty details with her “wronged” husband later. However, the issue seems less clear with regulars. If there is an obligation to inform, when does it begin? –Husband Into Slut
So, WWW, you have a right to say, “You have to drop this. It’s terribly upsetting to me. You can fantasize about it whenever you like, but this isn’t something I’m ever going to be able to do for you.” Then, for the sake of your marriage, he has to promise not to bring it up. You, for your part, have to promise not to obsess about what might be going through his mind when you two do have sex.
