I’m a 20-year-old straight girl. For six months I was dating a guy I thought was nice and normal. One way my boyfriend showed he cared (or so I thought) was by massaging my feet after work (I wait tables to pay my tuition). Then he confessed that he has a foot fetish. He wasn’t rubbing my feet to be sweet or tender or considerate, but for his own selfish reasons. I dumped him. He was very upset and is still begging me to take him back.
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On to your question: where do you find a normal man? I have no fucking idea, as I’ve never met one. Kink and variance seem to be a natural, intrinsic aspect of male sexuality. And while most men, like your ex, fall on the mild end of the mild-to-wild continuum, if you can’t handle the odd nonnormal sexual interest, FOG, I urge you to stop dating men, get a vibrator, and pack it in.
But here’s what I really want to say to you. Those foot rubs were fine so long as you believed your boyfriend derived no pleasure from them. The moment you learned he enjoyed those foot rubs too–my goodness, they turned him on!–you were no longer capable of deriving any pleasure
My boyfriend cross-dresses, which I understand doesn’t mean he’s gay. But he frequently talks to gay men on the Internet and states that he is gay. He denies being gay and says he just thinks it’s interesting to hear people’s reactions. He says he never meets anyone, but I found MapQuest directions to a man’s house on his computer. When confronted he said that he just wanted to know where this person lived (!).
Second, fathers are great–my son couldn’t agree more, Janice–and guess what? A lesbian couple can’t have a child without one. For all we know, Mary and Heather, like so many other lesbian couples, used a known gay male sperm donor–Ken Mehlman? Mark Foley? Ted Haggard?–and this kid is going to have a father in his life.
