Dear Readers: I’m proud to finally present my long-delayed column devoted to advice for Girls Also Longing and other 15-year-olds. What do the women who read Savage Love know now that they wish they’d known then? You can read all about it below.
Here’s a pearl of wisdom I wish someone had shared with me: Just because a guy wants to fuck you doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you. Sounds painfully obvious, doesn’t it? I was in my 20s before I finally figured it out. –Now I Know
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Your “no death grip” advice for 15-year-old boys is right on, but the same goes for girls. Too much, too hard, too monotonous masturbation is bad, bad, bad. If a girl is fortunate enough to have a vibrator, she should not constantly use it on jackhammer speed in one place. Vibrators and fingers don’t feel like tongues, dicks, or other toys. Variety. I can’t say it enough. –ES
(2) Any sexual encounter should be entered into joyfully and without duress. No coercion.
I wish I’d known when I was 15 that dating older men does not mean you are hot shit. It means you’re dating a dude who can’t get women his own age, and that those women are avoiding him for good reasons. –Karen L.
